I’ll tell you exactly why New Year’s Resolutions don’t work | However, as illuminating as the resolutions may seem when we first set them, their brightness often fails to shine passed the first week of January. New Year’s resolutions don’t work because they lack two major components. The first is the ...

I’ll tell you exactly why New Year’s Resolutions don’t work

Every year, the month of December ushers in a time of festive lights and a magic atmosphere. Houses, malls, streets and every corner of the city remind us that the holiday season has officially started. All the decorations, music, countless elves and Santas cheer us up and fill our hearts. My favorite of all, the magical lights, work together to transport us into an enchanted world where every one of our childhood dreams comes to life.

December is the magical month where everything seems possible. Families get together, gifts are exchanged, and everyone is in a joyful mood. To top it all, it coincides with the end of the year and the welcoming of the next. With this, December marks the perfect time to turn the page and look forward to new beginnings by setting goals for the new year ahead.

However, as illuminating as the resolutions may seem when we first set them, their brightness often fails to shine passed the first week of January.

Is it because the bar was raised too high?

Were there too many new resolutions to handle at once?

Did we choose the wrong improvements to focus on?

Was it just that the time was not right?


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Well, the truth is, although some of these reasons may seem valid, and in some cases they probably are, the real reason why resolutions don’t work out in the long run is because we are not ready to welcome them into our lives. True change is the result of a shift of mindset, and in most cases when those New Year’s resolutions are taken we’re not ready to welcome them.

We set resolutions, because the time seems right, but we are not always ready for the changes.

New Year’s resolutions don’t work because they lack two major components. The first is the preparation stage done prior to making the decision. Some people, like me, need this stage. The second is the impulse, or the motivation that pushes us to implement this change. This motivation is created either by having external factors (like when we move to a new country and are completely detached from our previous lifestyle) or internal factors (like when we hit rock bottom personally).

The key here is to be ready to cut the cord with whatever was holding us back in our previous mindset in order to reach our new goals.

Now take a minute to visualize a bowl of water in which you drop some ink. In the first few seconds, the ink takes some time to diffuse in the water, but we soon can see it moving slowly and increasing in size until the entire water takes the ink’s color.

Well, when it comes to a resolution, the same process applies. In our mind, the ink works like our motivation: once you drop it in, you can’t undo it. It’s there, it’s real, and the more we let it develop, the more it takes over our mindset until it becomes part of our identity.

Get the point?

The difference with New Year’s resolutions is that they are set at a time when we’re all enchanted by the magic of the festive season. We’re looking forward to a time of engagement, to close a year, to the celebrations, and our mindset is totally not ready to welcome a real change.

Coming back to the image of the bowl of water, New Year’s resolutions are like a pinch of glitter that you drop in it. They look magical when you first drop them in, and you take joy at seeing how they float and dance down into the water, but they will slowly make their way to the ground and…well, be forgotten.

See the difference?

Now, if you’re looking for a change, a real one, you need to be more determined in order to get the results that you hope to get. Otherwise, it will just be forgotten glitter.

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Ghada

 

Mom Blogger | A little obsessed with gossiping about my kids. I blog abut the fun side of parenting: milestones, tantrums and the lack of communication!


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