This is what motherhood really looks like. This is a random day in a mom’s life.
It’s different from everything else that I had heard before becoming a mom.
Magazines, pictures, and Instagram people make it all look pretty, clean, and easy. Babies are adorable. They smile, they laugh, and they kiss and hug. Sometimes, in some situations, they might get challenging when they are teething or crawling and touching everything, but future moms shouldn’t worry as all the retailers out there have such great solutions to every problem up to the point that I thought, “Well, motherhood doesn’t seem too difficult, does it?”
Other parents share a more realistic version of parenting by showing what could be “behind the scenes” to the beautiful, polished images we find in the magazines: tired moms, sleepless nights, food on the floor, and toys (and Legos) everywhere in the house.
And for a long time, I thought that this is how parenting should be: a challenging reality in the day of a parent.
When I first became a parent, I quickly realized that a child is more than just a cute image. My kids had needs that they didn’t know how to express and so I had to “guess” their needs, which happened when I was the least ready to face them, such as when my newborn baby would wake up every 2–3 hours at night, or when they threw up on my clean bedsheets.
Those needs evolved as my kids aged and as our family grew.
But today, as I look back on my family, I don’t believe that any of those two versions fully reflect what parenting really looks like. It’s not a polished frame but it’s not total chaos either.
It’s also not a mix of both because there is more to it than that.
Motherhood, simply put, is filled with moments where nothing special happens, where kids live their days, and moms do what they need to do.
Those moments are not necessarily picture-perfect, but they’re not filled with intense emotions of exhaustion or desperation either. They are just moments in a mom’s life and they happen much more frequently than we realize.
- When your kids have an IDEA
- Life with a strong-minded child
- Why I was late this morning (and every other morning)
- From the sleep deprived mommy of a newborn baby
When I drop my daughter at her school bus and I walk back home with my baby in the stroller. When I go out to have a cup of coffee as I did today. When my baby’s napping. When my daughter comes back home, we hug and kiss, and she does the same with her baby brother. On those days, she likes to sit for a few minutes in a specific spot under a tree to chat about whatever she has in mind.
Those are moments in a mom’s life that are real. They happen. Their happiness is very subtle and most of the time we don’t even consider photographing them because there is nothing too exciting about them. There is nothing to brag about and we mistakenly assume that we have nothing to remember about them.
But those are the true moments of our lives today. The ones that will remain in our kids’ memories when they look back on their childhood.
And this is, for me, what motherhood is really about.
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