This is life with a strong-minded child. When I say “you can’t have the ships now”, she hears “Mommy won’t get them for me, so I’ll have to find another way to reach my goal”.
That’s why she went to get those two stools to climb all the way up to the top closets. Of course, the stools were not sturdy enough to support one another and her plan failed. The bottom line: strong-minded kids never stop.
They keep trying.
Some days like today, it’s cute. Other days, when I’m in a rush or when my patience has worn thin, dealing with a stubborn mind can become challenging.
When she’s holding a cup and I fill it with water, she throws the water in the sink. Why? Because she wants to do it ALL. BY. HERSELF.
When we’re ready to leave the house and she’s getting dressed, she would take off her clothes if I helped her to facilitate the process. Why? Because she wants to do it ALL. BY. HERSELF.
When we’re getting ready for school and the bus is about to arrive, there is no time for her to feed her brother, which she insists upon. But, like so many other times, I just end up accepting it, because it’s easier to clean the little mess that she made when feeding her brother, or wait a couple of extra minutes (that I end up taking into consideration when I set my alarm in the morning), rather than dealing with her frustration for not achieving what she had in mind.
I love seeing how determined she is.
I love for her to be independent.
I love how this will turn her into a strong woman.
But until then, I’ll have to learn how to be patient and deal with her tenacity on a daily basis.
They say that strong-minded kids will have a bright future; that they will flourish in their careers. I like to think that her determination will take her in the right direction in those dark teenage years. I also like to think that it will help her make the right decision when it comes to the career she’s going to chose for herself.
I’m sure she will have many friends, because people like to be surrounded by those who know what they want, like my daughter. I just hope that when it comes to her intimate relationships, she will know how to chose the right person to spend the rest of her life with. Someone who will be as strong and determined as her so that they can both flourish with one another.
Until then, I’ll have to captivate her wild mind so that she can learn how to steer her determination to her advantage. I’ll have to teach her that being patient is a virtue and that it’s fine to lose from time to time. That’s how we get to experience life. It’s natural to ask for help and assistance. Most importantly, that listening is an important skill she’ll have to master. That’s how you get to appreciate life and all the best it has to offer.
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