We’ve all been there. We meet the perfect guy and start a beautiful relationship with him. Each time we meet we make sure to take care of the smallest details. Hair, make up, perfume, the perfect outfit with the matching shoes and bag. We feel fresh and radiant. We feel loved and cherished. Love. Languages

Book review: The 5 Languages of love

We’ve all been there.

We meet the perfect guy and start a beautiful relationship with him. Each time we meet we make sure to take care of the smallest details. Hair, make up, perfume, the perfect outfit with the matching shoes and bag.

We feel fresh and radiant.

We feel loved and cherished.

Until…

A sort of monotony takes over and the relationship looses its vibrancy, its sense of magic.

You no longer find the need to pamper yourself to meet your partner. As time goes on you lose the interest of surprising him because, well, you’ve done it all.

Sound familiar?

Well, here is the thing. Some people blame it on boredom. Other people blame it on the kids who are taking over the full time and attention (and energy) of their parents.

And I was one of them.

I used to think that time fades the charm of new relationships, but it turns out I was wrong.

It wasn’t until I read the book ‘The 5 Languages of Love’ that I got the full picture of how a relationship really works. The theory explained in this book is so powerfully true and so simple to understand that you can’t help but read the whole book in a couple of days.


SO WHAT IS THE BOOK ABOUT?

The author, Gary Chapman, divides our emotional needs into 5 categories, each having its different requirements, communication styles, expressions, expectations and reactions.

These categories are referred to as being the love languages.

Every one of us has one dominant language, sometimes even two.

In order to feel happy, we basically need to be with someone who understands our love language and makes sure to fill our “love tanks” constantly. Basically, the fuller the love tank, the happier the person is, and vice versa.

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THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES ARE:

• Words of affirmation
People with this dominant love language like to hear positive thoughts and comments. For them, words are very powerful and can be as motivating (if positive) as they can be diminishing (if negative). Those people would be constantly encouraging and motivating and would appreciate the same kind of treatment from their partners.

• Act of service
Those with dominance in this love language like to serve others. They like to make sure that everyone’s needs are answered and fulfilled, and they expect to receive an equally “serving” treatment from others. For them, helping out is the best proof of love.

• Receiving gifts
Before reading this book, I thought this love language was very superficial as being based on constantly receiving gifts (after all, who can constantly buy gifts without getting tired of it?). It turns out that the types of “gifts” that the author is referring to are the kind of stuff that have an emotional value, like getting a small souvenir from a trip, or getting a simple card “I thought of you” card from someone. These simple gestures mean the world to those whose love speaks this language.

• Quality time
This love language is pretty straightforward. People with a dominance in this love language would appreciate quality time with their partners. They do not need to reach the moon to be happy, but they simply need some one-on-one time to feel special and appreciated.

• Physical touch
Those with a dominance in this love language favor physical touch. The more they get touched, the happier, more satisfied they feel. The simplest types of touches (touching a shoulder, a kiss, a hug) mean the world to them.

So there you go. Here are your 5 categories of love.

I don’t want to spoil the book for you, so I’m going to stop right here.

You definitely need to get the book as it contains several examples to explain how each language works, how to fill the love tank of each category and how to make sure you avoid sadness and disappointment.

The book is available in print format and on Kindle, and can be purchased on Amazon (click here).

NOW, HERE IS MY FAVORITE PART

Once you’ve gone through the book and understood how the different languages function, you can take a test to find out what YOUR love language is.

You can find the test by clicking here.


The same author has written several books about his theory that are adapted to different groups. In addition to reading the generic one, I readThe 5 Languages of Children.

While there are many similarities in the two books, the examples and tips provided in the second one were adapted to children, which made it easier for me to understand how to approach my kids.

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