They say it’s important to choose a job that you like, one where you can enjoy your time at work and where you get to develop yourself and your career. And that’s what I did when I chose my current job - or at least I thought I did.

My love and hate relationship with my boss

They say it’s important to choose a job that you like, one where you can enjoy your time at work and where you get to develop yourself and your career.

And that’s what I did when I chose my current job – or at least I thought I did.

As a quick background about my current job, I’ve had it for a little over a couple of years now, about the same time my boss joined. In the first few months, she was still very shy and quiet, but then things started to change. You see, she is a very young, dynamic and strong person, and as all young managers, she tends to be unrealistic about her demands. While some days it could be great to work for such a young spirited-mind, other days I get more than enough of her harassing, continuous demands.

I am in this phase in my carrier where I really need to determine if this job is suitable for me, so I decided to list the pros and cons of working with this manager who keeps bossing me around to determine what my final decision would be: quit or stick it out for longer.

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I work 24/7

My working days start as early as 6:00 am, ending around 8:00 pm and I happen to work most weekends. My manager always finds a way to never let me rest. Turning my back on my job to enjoy a quick bite, to rest, or even to get out and enjoy my day in town, is not an acceptable norm for her.

I know this sounds illegal, right?

But there is not way to escape it.

On the good days, my boss can take up to three hours off, and that’s when I try to enjoy whatever is left of my life. But as her breaks can vary in time, I’m never sure when she’ll come back, and with this I can never really indulge in more than one major activity a day (I have to be on-demand when she comes back).

With these breaks, I try to plan a quick lunch (a couple of bites from a sandwich that I never liked anyway), followed by a quick trip to the shops to get what I really need for myself or for my house (like buying the food that I know in advance no one will get the chance to eat and will end up in the garbage bin, but it’s important for me to keep a life as normal as possible, so I keep buying this stuff).

She’s obsessed with what I do

My manager is weird about stuff. All managers are.

For instance, she used to be obsessed with watching everything I do (like on a non-work related level). Then I started hiding what I have so I can enjoy some space of my own. And now she’s obsessed with sneaking into my office when I’m away so she can open my drawers and search my stuff.

I am not kidding!

When I confront her, she pretends that she doesn’t know what I’m talking about. After all, can you really argue with your boss?

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Her demands can be very, very irritating

She has the worst mood swings you can imagine. I like to compare her to the ocean: some moments she can be as smooth and quiet like one of those summer days where you get to sit and enjoy the nice breeze under the warm sun, and at other moments she turns into a tsunami of terror that you cannot escape no matter where you hide.

When she wants something, there is no room for negotiation. Her demands can be unbelievable in their persistence and in their nature. When this mood hits I know that, for the next 30 minutes I won’t get a break. I’ll have to stop any activity I’m working on, and literally obey her orders “eat, no stop eating, now drink, follow me, sit here, no don’t sit, eat this, one more bite of this…”

We need to like, whatever she likes

Our team is very small, besides for her and myself, I have one more colleague who lives through the same hell.

Whenever she’s into something, we all need to like it and share in the same excitement. For example, if she happens to like a certain song, we will have to listen to it over and over again, until our ears can’t take it any longer. I feel that I’m starting to develop some kind of hearing-attention-loss, a special technique that my survival instinct has developed to save me from going mad.

 What I like about her

As I said above, my boss is very young. However if you’re assuming that she’s a fresh graduate or somewhere in her 20’s, that’s wrong.

She’s younger than that.

Way younger.

Crazy right?

Well you see my boss is a two-year old who thinks she can rule the world.

She’s young, dynamic and has a strong personality. She is still exploring the power of her verbal language, and the way she can ask and control things (and people) around her. She still has many things to learn and meanwhile, we’re here (my other colleague, aka her dad, and I) to make her feel safe and secure, and that we’re listening to her needs.

Meanwhile, I guess I’ll have to cope with the long work hours, the weirdness, the irksome demands and the mood swings.

In the end, the one thing I like most about my new boss is that she definitely knows when to smile to steal my heart. And that’s definitely worth keeping this job for the time being.

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They say it’s important to choose a job that you like, one where you can enjoy your time at work and where you get to develop yourself and your career. And that’s what I did when I chose my current job - or at least I thought I did.

 

4 thoughts on “My love and hate relationship with my boss

  1. Awww this was cute. I can totally relate being home on mat leave from my career. It feels like I’ve just changed employers for the time being, with this “job” being wayyyy harder, as I have two “bosses”. All the best.

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