When it comes to men, smart is the new sexy.
Well, at least that’s how I see it and I have a valid reason to think so.
I’ve never been attracted to men who use the image of their body as their best qualification, as I’ve quickly learned that a polished exterior does not equal a steady, happy relationship. Having said that, my preference has always been towards smarter men who are not necessarily the next Hollywood stars, but who are still smart enough to want to understand me.
Now, just to clarify, a smart man is not one who reads a lot of books, as having too much knowledge simply means that you happen to know a lot of stuff (probably the kind of stuff that I’m not interested in knowing and that won’t be useful in building a happy relationship). The way I define a smart man is one who is able to put in practice, successfully, what he has learned from these books. This means being able to have proper conversations, having steady friendships, knowing what he wants in life and more importantly being able to manage a successful relationship.
A smart man is one who takes the time to understand what his partner wants, but more importantly, one who takes the time to discover how his partner functions and let her know that he appreciates who she is.
That, for me, is the epitome of sexy.
I met my husband 12 years ago, a couple of months after my graduation. Not many people know this, but he was the human resources director of the hotel where I got my very first job, which means that he participated in the recruitment process. So, in less than two months I got a job and a relationship and I was no longer available on the market (in all possible ways).
That man was smart enough to convince me to take on both (the job and himself) because he cared enough to understand how I functioned.
Today, over a decade down the road, we are still together because we are capable of talking openly to one another. He knows me so well that most of the time he is capable of anticipating my actions and decisions before I take them (how great is that?).
I honestly still don’t know how he does it, as most of the time I don’t know what I want.
In our time together, my perception of a smart man has evolved a lot and today, with all that we’ve been through together, and with a child in tow, there is one more point that I have added to the description mentioned above: A smart man is one who knows how to make his partner laugh.
My husband cracks me up. All. The. Time. When I’m with him, I’m never bored. I just laugh. Sometimes, I laugh so much that I just have to beg him to stop because I can’t take it anymore.
They say that laughing makes you live longer, and also that laughter is the best medicine. If this means I’ll spend the rest of my days with that man, laughing this much, that would make me the happiest woman ever (with the sexiest man ever).
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