One of the best things about living in an international city like Dubai is that its cosmopolitan community gets to keep a genuine aspect.
With this, both westernized and oriental cultures have adapted to live hand in hand in the same city, which offers today the best of both worlds: a career and a nanny!
In Dubai, the brunch tradition, especially during the ‘winter’ season, is a must! On Fridays and Saturdays, every restaurant in downtown Dubai, Jumeirah Beach Residences and at the Marina assembles masses of strong, independent, stylish women, many of whom are moms.
The relaxed lifestyle in Dubai helps new moms get back in fabulous shape – physically and mentally – much faster than in other countries.
Being a mom-and-fabulous is the accepted norm in Dubai!
In many cases, this relaxed lifestyle comes with the help of the (affordable) nannies who help moms keep their sanity.
However, underneath the shimmering surface of this reality lies a whole new world where moms are naturally divided into two kinds…
First, the momzillas who want to keep an eye on every-single-little-detail that the nanny does, assuming beforehand that she is not qualified to meet the standards required from her. Those moms feel exhausted, as the false illusion of being in-control is time-consuming and pushes them away from what could be their priority: spending more fun-time with their kids.
And then the ‘cool moms’ who are less controlling. These moms welcome an intruder into their pack in exchange for their careers. As a result, they leave more freedom to the nannies… only to feel devastated when they find out, with great despair, that their kids favor the intruder, over them.
So does the convenient status of being a mom-and-fabulous, come with a price?
Or is this fear just a partial version of a bigger reality: the concern of not being a good mom as per the acceptable social standards?
Reality is: kids have lot of love to share with everyone around them.
Letting them express this love is part of the natural cycle of life, and the more people they share it with, the healthier it is for developing their social skills.
When my baby got sick the other day, I was happy to notice that she turned back to me instead of our intruder. She knew who her mom was; there was no question about that. And from that day onwards, I had no fear of sharing my baby with anyone else.
She was not mine to start with, and I had no right to limit her interaction with other people in fear of competition.
And after all, was it really a competition….?
Over to you now. If you’ve had a nanny, how did you deal with sharing your kids with her? Tell us your stories and how you’ve learned to overcome the fear of sharing the love of your kids. And if you know other moms who have great stories to tell, share with them this page and ask them to join our discussion!
Let’s share the love!